Social media: the pitfall of relationships everywhere. Don't get me wrong because there are a lot of pros about social media - I can stay in touch with my family even thought they're super far away from us, I can stay in touch with all of my BFFs, build a network-marketing empire, and I can send off pitches to magazines and publications with a speed never seen before. I love the online realm, and I have grown so much since I've started using it for networking purposes, but most importantly, I've learned to be a peacemaker.
But, there are also a LOT of cons to social media, and the biggest one that I'd like to talk about today are what I like to call e-fights. If you're using social media, you've probably come across someone that had a different opinion than yours and you learned first hand that it is SO easy to be a "keyboard warrior." SO. FREAKING. EASY. The next thing you know, you're either being blocked or blocking someone because you just can't stop - you have to get the last comment in. These situations tend to get heated pretty quickly and there is usually no chance of being a peacemaker - unless you nip it in the bud!
When you see yourself or someone else turning into a "keyboard warrior," the best thing you can do is walk away. Provide the facts if you must, but don't get angry. You're not going to change their opinion online and you just have to accept that.
Furthermore, you have to understand that many of these people out there are just looking to make someone angry online because they think it's funny. We call these people trolls. The most important thing to know about a troll is that nine times out of ten, they're downright miserable people that are just searching for some company within their own misery. When you spot a troll, the best thing you can do is to roll your eyes and walk away. If you must engage them, the best thing to do is to be a super kind peacemaker and tell them that you'll pray for them, or other super nice compliments and to lay it on super thick.
The hardest time for me to personally be a peacemaker is when it is family. As a younger person in my family, not all of my relatives are as liberal as I am, even though I still consider myself pretty conservative. Often times, you'll find your own relatives spreading misinformation about causes you're passionate about, and of course, you'll want to set them straight. Unfortunately, sometimes when you go to lay out the facts, they'll still see it as a personal attack. When it comes to those kind of hot-button topics, I have learned just to usually avoid talking to my family about them if we don't agree. This helps keep the peace because like I said above, no matter what I say, or what statistics I show them, they're not going to change their minds overnight about whatever we disagree about.
The next time someone picks a fight with you online, just be kind. Remember, you are an amazing, beautiful person and don't let anyone steal your sparkle or prevent you from being happy! When it gets heated online, don't engage negatively, be the kind peacekeeper!